And thus, you are afraid. You obey them, and you do not question. Their rules make your life's joy very limited at best; and at worst, you are made utterly miserable. But still, you listen to them and you obey them, and you do not question them; because from birth you have been brainwashed to believe that what they are telling you is the way that "it" is. You know that if you dare to question, to challenge, then the friends and family you have will distance themselves from you.